I had a little downtime today when the house was quiet and I hadn’t colored (yes, I like to color in coloring books w/ artists markers, it calms me). I came out to the sun room and sat down to color. Of course my mind was racing a million miles a minute. (like it always does.) I started to think about being a mom and how much a mom (or dad) needs to know how to do. I thought about all the other moms and dads and grandparents. I wondered if they realized just how many skills they possess.
As parents we are responsible for keeping a tiny human safe, warm and alive. We aren’t given a book about care and feeding of said tiny human. At the hospital we pay them to assist us in expelling our fruit when it is ripe. Then the staff wraps it up in a receiving blanket and sends you on your merry way, without instructions. As parents we have to learn each and every day a different skill in order to manage the life of our offspring and guide it onto the right path. I am sure just about everyone has heard the old saying about someone who knows a little bit about a lot of things. “Jack of all trades, but a master at none.”
It seems pretty condescending doesn’t it?
But if you break it down and analyze it, it can be rather flattering. I like to think of things in a more positive way so I will go with flattering!
As a mother I have had to be a ‘Jill’ of all trades. (see what I did there?)
Because of this I may not be the best at everything I do and in some areas I may not even measure up to people I admire on my best day. But, everyone has strengths and weaknesses. We all know a little bit about many different things, but all mothers (and fathers) are masters of many things.
I bet if we all took inventory of the knowledge we have gained through trial and error just being a parent, we would all have a pretty impressive resume’. Don’t you think?? I have had times in my life where I didn’t feel as if I measured up as a parent or even as a woman. When I feel that way I try to recall all the things I am good at and how my knowledge of those things is worthy and beneficial to my family.
For instance, I love to cook and create something that is remembered in a positive way by those who got to eat it. Knowing how to cook wasn’t something I knew how to do very well when I became a parent. Even though my mother cooked for us, I guess I never thought of actually learning the skill. After many years I have built a skill set for cooking that I am pretty proud of. That is just one of many trades I have mastered or come close to mastering (well my idea of mastering anyway).
So when you are feeling down, take a few minutes to reflect on just how many skills you do have. You don’t have to live up to anyone else’s standards. Just live up to your own standards, love what you do and it will be what reaps the most reward.